What exactly is low self-esteem?

Low self-esteem refers to people who have an overall poor opinion of themselves. Low self-esteem can comprise a wide range of factors, such as your sense of identity, self-confidence, and feelings of not knowing where you belong, or even if you are worthy of being loved. Low self-esteem is not classified as a mental illness, but it can affect your motivation to go after the things you want in life, as well as your ability to develop good relationships. Low self-esteem may not be classified as a mental illness, but it is a psychological condition, which can have a harmful effect on your health, and feelings of well-being. Men and women are equally affected by this condition. Here are some common signs of low self-esteem, which include:

• Lack of confidence. You may constantly have thoughts that you are fat, ugly, hopeless, and can't do anything right. Compliments and positive statements, whether from friends or family, are considered to be insincere.
• Worry and self-doubt. Even after making a decision which you have carefully considered, people who have low self-worth often worry that they have made the wrong choice. They doubt their own opinions so much that they would rather put their own decisions aside, and take the advice of someone else who may have different values.
• Fear of failure. People who fear making mistakes may look for ways to hide feelings of inadequacy, make excuses for failures, and blame external factors as an excuse.
• Anxiety and emotional distress. Low self-esteem may even play a role in the development of some mental health conditions such as depression and anxiety.
• Eating disorders. Some people with a poor self-image will look for comfort by eating too much, while others might eat too little, as a form of punishment for perceived incompetence.
• Relationship issues. These are always difficult to negotiate, especially in the area of sexuality.

People who don't feel good about themselves run the risk of becoming people-pleasers, as saying no to someone often leads to guilt and anxiety.

The link between sex and low self-esteem

The difficulty is that if you are not feeling confident about yourself, you may find it harder to say no to sex and end up having sex when you do not really want to. This is a poor decision, as it will not be possible to enjoy the encounter as you should. Studies have shown that this is a disturbing aspect of low self-esteem, and may lead to a relationship breakdown, and vindication of your thoughts that you have no value as a person. Experts agree that the best way to restore your confidence is by means of counselling by a therapist, who is experienced in helping people to renew the mind, eliminate negative thoughts, and restore lost esteem and confidence.

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