Worry about sexuality is more common than you think
Worry about sexuality, also known as sexual anxiety, can happen to anyone. You can have this type of anxiety in marriage, in present relationships, or even with a new romantic partner.
Research has indicated that up to 25% of men, and up to 16% of women, experience sexual anxiety – sometimes often called sexual performance anxiety. It is characterised as a feeling of nervousness before or during sex. It applies to both men and women.
When you feel nervous or worried, the body releases stress hormones, which makes it much harder to relax and enjoy sex with your partner. You could be experiencing sexual anxiety if you have any of the following symptoms:
- Often feel nervous before or during sex.
- Cannot relax and stay in the present moment.
- Feel shame or guilt about your sexual performance.
- Unresolved trauma about a previous sexual encounter.
- A general anxiety disorder which carries over to sexuality issues.
Any of these symptoms can pull you out of the moment, kill your sex drive, and leave you feeling defeated and ashamed.
Some causes of sexual anxiety.
In the present day, throughout daily life, we are blitzed by TV programs, documentaries, and movies, of what sex should look like, and what it should be like. Most of these shows are very dramatic, and tend to fill people with unrealistic expectations of their sexual encounters.
All the bombardments of unreality, can make you believe that everyone out there is having amazing, awesome sex all the time. Since this is not happening for you, it may begin to make you think that there must be something wrong with you.
In fact, studies have shown that sensational sex, based on beautiful people, and awesome performances, sells like hot cakes.
There is very little focus on emotional connection, relationships, or lack of libido issues.
This can lead to vulnerable people with sexual anxiety, especially those in a meaningful relationship, shifting the focus from the mind/body connection, to ways of improving performance.
Unfortunately, this may only lead to more problems, as trying to improve performance will not ease the anxiety.
What can you do to dispel sexuality doubts?
Whether you are a man or a woman, you might have experienced sexual anxiety over the years.
Feeling anxious at times about your actions between the sheets is normal, but when it persists, it can affect your quality of life.
Mental health experts agree that consulting a sex therapist could be the key to solving the problem. Therapists know that sexual anxiety can involve many factors. Here are some of them:
- Self-esteem struggles, lack of confidence in yourself.
- Unresolved sexual trauma.
- Erectile dysfunction, painful intercourse.
These are just some of the anxiety-causing issues that may be holding you back. A sex therapist will work with you to help untangle the complicated worries which feed your sexual anxiety.
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