You can make it good

There are often stories doing the rounds that sex after marriage may take a disconcerting plunge. Some of the stories may hold a measure of truth, while others are considered to be completely baseless. If you feel that your sex life has taken a turn for the worse after marriage, you can make it good.

Sometimes, after all the chaos of a wedding, and personal adjustments that need to be made, sex may have to take a back seat for a time, while you get to grips with your new life. Studies have suggested that intimacy in a relationship usually leads to a fulfilling sex life.

What is intimacy?

Firstly, contrary to a lot of popular ideas, intimacy is not another word for sex. Sex with your partner can build intimacy, but there are many other aspects to intimacy.

Intimacy falls into several different categories. Here are some of them which can help you escalate the intimacy in your relationship:

• Emotional intimacy is what allows you to tell your partner personal things you would not tell anyone else. These moments can bring you closer.
• Intimacy also grows when you spend quality time together, sharing common interests and activities, which bring you closer to each other.
• When you both make an effort to listen to each other, or explain how you really feel, it helps to build up a real understanding between you.
• Physical affection. If you have a sexual relationship, then physical affection usual comes naturally with a sexual encounter. However, if you make a point of showing physical affection without the sexual act, it boosts intimacy and supports your relationship.

True intimacy does not happen overnight. It is best described as a relationship quality that you need to continue to build as time goes by.

How intimate is your relationship?

Here are some factors which can indicate the depth of intimacy in your relationship:

• If you trust your partner enough to share personal parts of yourself, embarrassing secrets, or even your deepest fears, then your relationship is on good intimate standing.
• When you and your partner can accept each other for who you truly are, you have definitely established some intimacy.
• When you feel comfortable talking about how you feel, even in sensitive matters like sex, it is a sure sign that intimacy is present.
• Demonstrating that you care by showing affection helps to build and maintain intimacy.
• Compassion is a natural part of caring about each other’s well-being. Forgiveness and understanding during the difficult times can only exist when there is compassion between people. This always adds to fulfilling moments of intimacy between partners.
• Good communication is the key to a good relationship, whether it be sexual, platonic or perhaps just companionship. The more you communicate with each other the deeper your level of intimacy will be. This is especially beneficial for folk who have post-marital sexual issues, and who are trying build up intimacy to improve their relationships.

Sharing common values may help to bolster feelings that you were meant to be with each other.

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