Questions about what is what in the bedroom.

Many couples often have questions about what is right in the bedroom, and what is fact and what is fiction.

Here is a list of the more common beliefs – and whether or not they have any factual substance.

• A healthy sex life means doing it at least 3 times per week. This is fiction. No matter what other folk say, most of them are living in a dream world. Forget about comparing your sex life to some so-called ideal situation. All that matters is what you and your partner want.
• Turning off the lights could turn each other on. Partly true. Studies have shown that many guys prefer the lights to stay on, while keeping the lights on is known to help some women focus on relaxing and pleasure.
• Many women say that they have faked orgasms. Research has indicated that this is true. Some men put a lot of pressure on their partners to have an orgasm, little knowing that all the pressure actually may turn a woman off. The most common reason a woman may fake an orgasm is not to hurt a loved one’s feelings. The answer guys, is to relax so that your partner feels at ease with you, and will not need to fake it.
• Women don’t like porn. This is partly true. But all women are not the same. Some simply like erotica, but a man should actually talk to his partner about what she does or does not like, before diving into anything like serious porn.
• A TV in the bedroom can drastically reduce your sex life. This is very true. If you like to watch TV in bed, get used to having less sex than couples who don’t have a TV in the bedroom. Studies have found that folk who love watching TV in bed – either one or both partners can get engrossed in a program and often don’t want to be disturbed for sex. Even worse, one or both may fall asleep while watching the TV – a situation which is a real passion killer. Keep the bedroom for sex and sleep, and watch TV in the TV room.
• Hugging can improve your sex life. Very true. Some people believe that sex and physical closeness are different things, but the two actually go hand in hand. Research has shown that levels of oxytocin, also known as the “love hormone,” increase during sex, hugging, and physical contact. Couples who hug and kiss, or hold hands frequently, make each feel good, and can improve your sex life.
• Couples often climax at the same time. Not true. In fact this rarely happens. Focus on pleasing each other, and let nature take its course. If you are enjoying the sexual encounter, and a climax happens simultaneously – look on it as a bonus.
• Spur-of-the-moment sex can be great. Yes, it is great. But if you are waiting for spur-of-the- moment to happen each time, you may in for a long wait. If you are both busy with hectic schedules, it will help to plan a regular time when you can be alone. This need not be cast in stone, but it can give you something to look forward to, and you may find that planning a time for sex could help build desire for both of you.

Everyone deserves to have a fulfilling, happy sex life, especially those in loving relationships. Unfortunately, there are many stumbling blocks along the way that have to be conquered for this to happen.

The best way is to pay as much attention to your relationship sex life as you would to other issues in your general life.

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